Goodness knows I love my grandfather. He is a pillar, a great patriarch in the family and a responsible father. He is also quite a religious man and because of this, we tend to clash at times.
As I was the first granddaughter of the family, the first grandchild of his, we have a very close bond since I was a young girl. He always encouraged me to do well in my studies, reach for the stars and be a strong woman.
Except in this case be strong like a modern woman, even if the Bible itself speaks against women working out of home. Titus in the book Titus speaks about women being the keepers of the home. It’s there at Titus 2:5, read it! I know it and I’m not even Christian.
The hypocrisy that stemmed out of his argument, once I told him the ultimate occupation I wanted was to be a homemaker and a mother, was simply disappointing.
He basically said that oh well, Titus is outdated and so you can simply disregard that. Everyone should be working to earn their keep.
Now, aside from the intended insult that housewives do not ‘earn their keep’ (because apparently it’s just about money), I had some other issues. You can’t just cherrypick what you follow and not follow in the Bible, it’s either you faithfully follow it or you don’t. Dismissing something because it doesn’t help your argument it is childish and foolish. I have a great respect for the man we once called our patriarch but this illogical behaviour was something I would not tolerate.
It doesn’t make sense for you to call yourself a devout Christian and not believe in Titus’ teachings. This is not a historical issue like how people rode donkeys then and whatnot. Those were the historical settings but that very verse said by Titus has no historical attachment or reference, it is a general statement.
Women are meant to be the keepers of the home – plain, simple and timeless! You can’t follow a traditional Bible then tell the women in your life they have to act modern (?!).
I answered him. Well, shall we just label the whole book outdated?
Then he waved me off, I could see he was turning a little red. One thing I must say, his stubbornness was something both my father and I inherited. But of course, I am softer in voice, I do not yell and I present my points in a graceful fashion- sharp and witty but not aggressive.
So if he has a problem with how I argue my case and wants to know why I am like this…
…all he needs to do is look in the mirror.
(Though it was very satisfying to use his own Bible against him.)