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Non-Binary Theory: Egocentrism Or Basically First World People With Nothing Better To Do


Sometimes I just don’t understand how immigrants from third world countries like me can look at this social media/media hype around Non-Binary identifying people and not visibly cringe.

These people insist on a theory that people can identify outside of male or female or something in between or they float from one island or whatever. There’s so many rules and conditions, it’s just confusing. I don’t even want to get into the pronouns.

I can’t believe I’m saying this, however remember the simpler days when you were man or woman, gay or straight? You like the opposite or same sex (or both). You had female body parts or male body parts. The reason why the church had problems with it was because it went against doctrine, though when you think about it, the concept was quite easy to understand. This or that.

Now you have all this blah and hoo-hah about not being entirely male or female or being semi (or Demi, ugh) man or woman.

You know what I think?

This is stuff that people think about when they have so much comfort in the time of their lives and no dire worries like whether they would have food on their table the next day or a roof over their head and watching out for hold-uppers in the street. They don’t have to worry about any of those basic human needs for survival so they have all this mind space to think about themselves and their ego.

All this space to wonder about themselves and come up with all this non-binary garbage. Which, must I add, still has no specific scientific backing or evidence in studies, merely a bunch of social science (which is of course, not a real science) surveys and the opinions of psychologists. Not actual biological evidence at all. There is scientific evidence for trans people, I’ll get into that later and there’s history behind gay people, however there is no non-binary theory proven as fact.

What I do know is, there are some serious weirdos in history, hand-picked individuals here and there that acted out of society’s norm- people who dressed and acted both female and male, though that does not prove anything about whether they were truly binary or non-binary. Some individuals are just peculiar and it happens. Like I always said, there’s exceptions to everything.

It’s just hard to believe that this whole non-binary lunacy is actually real since there is nothing backing it. It’s as if they just want to make things up to have something to fuss about, declare it the world and whine and complain and start campaigns so that they have something to do. So that they feel they have a voice because they are whining. Then when their campaigns come through, there is the fame, the sympathy and the press. On top of that, virtue signalling- they’re fighting for something and it feels good. They matter in the big, wide world, they get emotional sympathy and they feel good. All of these ingredients combine to make the ultimate dish called Supreme Egotism.

It’s also usually a bunch of first-world people who talk about this. Mostly white folks and some coloured folks who live in first world countries. You don’t see street beggars in third world countries worrying about what pronouns people use to refer to them or feel ‘violently assaulted’ when they are referred to as a girl when today they felt more like a boy.

As my father so brilliantly put it:

In the absence of bigger problems, small ones seem so monumental.

Seriously people, get a grip on life, appreciate what you have and stop making up things to get attention and amuse yourselves in your mind-space.

10 thoughts on “Non-Binary Theory: Egocentrism Or Basically First World People With Nothing Better To Do

  1. No one is trying to create ‘new rules’ for a way of being! Being non-binary is in fact escaping the rules rather than submitting to the endless binary stereotypes that exist in the world! Some people feel so incredibly boxed in by gender stereotypes that they feel they have no place in the world, which is exactly how I felt until I realised there was a word to describe how I felt about myself. Yes, the pronouns thing can be difficult, but for some people it really matters. Perhaps if they are living on the street then pronouns might be the least of their worries, but don’t forget that around 24% of homeless youth in the UK identify as LGBT. Transgender is not as simple as it may appear to you, it is not some clear binary journey, and some people never fully transition from one to the other. The only reason things are changing now is because people are finally talking about it. And as for the simple ‘man or woman’ I suggest you Google some cultural third genders as their are many all over the world, such as the Muxe in Mexico, Hijra in India, and Fa’afafine in Samoa. In classical Judaism there are six named genders. Please, for the sake of everyone, don’t just dismiss these concepts as attention seeking and selfish. If you don’t understand it then go and educate yourself. Put yourself in someone’s else’s shoes and imagine what it’s like to feel alienated because of the way you feel about your body and your given sex. Here are some excellent talks that I think will help you to understand more:

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    1. You went through this whole comment without insulting me or name calling me since we have different opinions. I appreciate that, you’re very civil. Anyway, I’ll address your points.
      Nobody said you have to be lumped in into gender stereotypes. People have them, if you don’t abide by them, then don’t. It’s not illegal and I don’t even get why people are so affected by this. Just do it the way you want. I don’t fit in some stereotypes- I love video games and beer, which is unusual for a woman and people find that peculiar. Okay, that’s the end of it. Why whine about it?
      Your definition of ‘homeless’ is much lighter than what I meant. Homeless in a first world country is not what I meant. I meant homeless as in your ribs are jutting out, you’re sleeping on a piece of cardboard next to maybe the corpse of a child who died of hunger, the flies are already buzzing around. You literally would pick dirty food out of restaurant bins. That’s what I meant, since I’ve seen that, I’ve lived in a country where that is the norm.
      Though hey- I never said anything against transgender people, I realise that there is science backing being transgender (such as brain scans and whatnot), but there is nothing scientifically backing this non-binary stuff. Nothing evidence-based and science-based (not social science surveys). Like biological evidence.
      Yeah, like little off tribes that never really managed to progress into modernity while everyone else had, yes? There’s a reason why they stayed a very small, tiny part of society as a peculiarity and never modernised. These are people that also believe in gods of thunder or whatnot and believe voodoo-like cures. I’ve seen tribes like that, I think their cultures can be interesting, however, facts are facts and they’re still backwards, so why believe in all the third gender stuff if you’re not going to believe in their peculiar religions too? Might as well believe that there’s different gods for different things since you’re saying they got it right. Referencing un-modernised tribes and very small groups of people is still not evidence. It’s not science.
      Talks don’t prove anything to me. Science does. Once I see real, biological scientific evidence of this non-binary stuff, then I’ll believe it.


      1. I do not intend to insult anyone, I simply wish to educate. The transgender community is not so far from non-binary as it may seem, whatever science may say. People are just people and they are all different, both in how they express themselves and how they feel on the inside. This is something that everyone needs to respect. I know there are people living in terrible conditions out in the world and that identity may matter very little to them when their main concern is survival. Yet how can you possibly know how they might feel about themselves if given half the chance to consider it? Have you asked them? It is no one’s place to tell someone else who they are.
        If you would like some scientific evidence then I suggest you read these articles:
        Science should not determine how you treat people, however much it may prove. Thank you for your time.

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      2. That is what I meant and I appreciate a truly civil discussion. You did not insult me at all. You are right in that people are just people, however the reason why I am leaning heavily towards what is fact and science based is that all this non-binary theory is now trying to be put into law and actually have a visible effect on society. It’s like trying to advertise holistic medicine as scientific medicine when it’s not. It’s not proven so why should it have legal bearings?
        That is what I am saying, in the absence of big problems the smaller ones seem gigantic. This stuff only occurs in first world, more affluent countries, I am saying this is a sign of people having such comfortable lives compared to third world people in poverty that they can even dwell on these things.
        I read both articles. A lot of it seem very anecdotal to me and that I did not regard as that is not very high level evidence. However, the idea of an intersex has been around for a while and intersex people exist, that is not non-binary. These are people with a disfigurement of their chromosomes, they are not bad people of course, however they are suffering under an abnormal condition. It is a medical anomaly and not a whole new section of gender in-betweens. Of course brains will not be 100% male or female, the majority determines what the actual person’s gender would be, not some in-between. It’s like women are not always 100% in having feminine features. Some women have less curves or have broad shoulders, some parts of them may look more traditionally ‘man’-like, but that does not mean they are not women.
        Science determines facts and should determine the law. The law affects people’s daily lives (such as getting sued for not using the ‘correct pronoun’) and the daily lives of the general population should not be affected so much by something that has not been even proven scientifically.


      3. I think you are assuming that everyone who identifies as non-binary is angry and wants to sue people for mis-identifying them. You clearly have a very narrow experience with people like this and I would like to know what you are basing your assumptions on. The way you talk about this being a first-world problem in comparison to other countries is completely irrelevant. It’s like saying ‘why bother with feminism when there are children starving in Africa?’ Do you see my point?
        Your constant reference to the law indicates that perhaps you are intimidated by the idea that this kind of thing could have legal bearings, though I don’t see why it should because it shouldn’t affect you. I know of no non-binary person who would sue just because someone was using the wrong pronouns, however I do know of people who would like the option of gender-neutral pronouns on legal forms.

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      4. It does not matter whether a few people want to do that or not. Just Google the hate speech laws in Canada- people are getting sued over pronouns and ‘hate speech’. This law already clashes with free speech and Australia is trying to pass something similar too. America is a bit in the grey because their laws have more protection for free speech.
        Growing up in a third world country myself, I think the way people magnify this problem is a sign of affluence and how self-focused they are, Maybe if they focus on bigger problems, helping those people who can barely even live and appreciate what they have, then the reverse would happen. Small problems won’t seem like big ones because bigger ones are already present. You don’t see third world countries worrying about stuff like pronouns, they focus on just being alive, helping each other stay alive. First world countries have so much more money and comfort in living, even individuals can make such a big impact to their hardships.
        Not intimidated, I highly disagree with the fact that people’s ‘feelings’ about their gender, with no scientific evidence can become a law that can seriously bother the lives of the majority. You may know no one personally, though that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. Simple Google search, really. Bill C-16.


      5. I would agree that it challenges free speech, and though I am frequently misgendered there is no way I would ever take legal action against someone for using the wrong word. If you want to get into politics, every country is different and there are many politicians focusing on ridiculous things. I mean, Trump! Need I say more? There will always be people with bigger problems than others, but that is still no excuse to just dismiss a whole load of people as self-centred for simply declaring their identity. My experience of being non-binary is more the fact that I would simply like people to accept me as a human being, rather than a man or woman, because I am so often mistaken for the wrong one when I feel like neither. When I walk into female toilets I get stared at because people think I’m male. All I want to do is get on with my life and for people to leave me alone. That is my experience, however I cannot speak for other people as I still use female pronouns.

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      6. You are one of the very few voices I have heard who says that, compared to what you see and hear everywhere. Obviously if it was passed, people wanted it to have legal actions attached to it.
        I actually support Trump and I like most of his policies, especially being a legal immigrant myself, I strongly dislike people jumping through borders when many of us work so hard to get to a Western country.
        I understand what you mean, I do think that gender could be an expression, though legal, biological sex should stay the same unless you have changed your body physically (like post op).
        I am not dismissing it, I’m just observing that this is a first world country, it happens in places that are not ravaged by extreme poverty or conflict, I see it as a sign of more comfortable living, compared to third world countries.
        Of course people shouldn’t be rude, that is a general thing, people should leave you to your devices, same vice versa with people forcing pronouns and the such. People can do what they want.

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