Against Feminism/MRA · Thoughts

Women Should Be Seen, Not Heard?


Controversial statement, I know.

To some it is definitely downright sexist, though let me explain.

The common interpretation, the way most people take this statement to mean, I disagree with. Women should have the right to talk when they want to, about what they believe in. Everybody should have that right, as it is a free society.

What I truly mean when I interpret this statement is that, well, women have lost proper tact.

By being ‘seen’, women can use tact and subtlety to cleverly make strong statements. While I advocate for women expressing themselves however they feel, I do think the ‘tactful’ way has been long forgotten and generally perceived as a weak, outdated thing.

Now most women, usually feminists try and demand what they want by yelling, being obscene, protesting using ugly hats and showing off body parts (that nobody really wants to see, gross). There was a time for that, though I don’t see plenty of activist women expressing themselves in logical, tactful ways. I’m talking most of the Left. The few I’ve seen are usually Conservative.

Plainly, yelling, swearing and being downright ugly about it is not only an eyesore but it can be downright ineffective.

One of women’s great nature-given gifts is beauty and yet many activists don’t choose to use it. Beauty is admired and gains attention. Creating beauty while making a statement gets you heard. Being graceful and a lovely sight gets you respect. If you look and act hostile, people will already approach you and your words defensively. Women just aren’t using beauty, a natural strength, to their advantage.

Women in the past knew beauty mattered and used it to be heard. Cleopatra, who charmed plenty of men in negotiating for her country and the throne. Queen Elizabeth I made her appearance so legendary, it inspired courtly love, devotion and loyalty from much of her subjects.

Being beautiful and tactful does not mean being rude and loud, if you have the right points to say and you know how to convey it well, you don’t need to resort to foul language and attitudes.

There are also women who did not use beauty to be heard, like Joan of Arc, who basically cross-dressed and physically fought her way to victory. Which is fine, too. I’m just saying there is more than one way to do so and women should give being ‘seen’ a try, since it can work well.

The way we use our beauty, elegance and tact is what makes us stand out from men. Men are more brutish, rough and blunt, generally.

If as women we want to be heard more effectively by other women and especially men- let’s use beauty and tact. Let’s play with words with strong meanings and debate with wit.

Not with buzz words and swearing.

Not with uncouthness and barbarism.

After all, women’s beauty and tact have empowered whole kingdoms and saved countries.

Ladies, let’s be seen beautifully so our lovely voices can be heard.

6 thoughts on “Women Should Be Seen, Not Heard?

  1. I agree with you Ive found myself totally misunderstood at work because of rough and bold opinions. People started approaching me expecting me to retaliate. I felt like I had to speak up for the people that werent being treated fairly. But my demeanor was totally wrong.So instead of helping the situation I ended up being ignored with a bad rep. I care about my job and try to do the best I can. Because I wasnt communicating well it almost cost me job of 20 yrs.Im working on my approach to be more subtle and diplomatic. Ive already noticed a difference in the way people take me seriously.

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    1. This is lovely to hear! While there is a time and place to approach things more roughly, don’t discount the beauty-and-grace approach so easily. If it works, it does, if not then no- at least you tried it! 🙂


  2. That’s interesting.
    It seems you are saying that when we as women, adopt the same brutish tactics and behaviores as those we are trying to convince to act differently, we are actually undermining our cause. That perhaps we’d be better served by maintaining our natural charm and grace (and dignity) if we want to affect meaningful change. I would happily join any women’s movement that I believed in so long as we conducted ourselves as “ladies” and not an angry mob.

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    1. I definitely am saying that! Though the last thing I want to be an absolutist, there are times to be more masculine and I think the more feminine approach has some benefits we just haven’t tried and considered.
      Join a women’s movement that definitely does not base their beliefs on BS, only on facts and logic.

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