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That Stepford Gal At The Centre-Right?: Why I’m Hesitating To Call Myself Conservative


Yes, definitely this is a shocking one, eh?

You would really think differently based on all my blog posts, my favourite words like ‘traditional’ and ‘Right-wing’, since well, I don’t really like Lefties and I oppose them and their social justice, oppression myths and their overall plight on the world.

Though I like to reflect on myself at times and looking more into my own side, the so-called ‘Right’ or the Conservatives. Even just the word in itself says a lot, a lot more than what I first realised.

Conservative – To conserve or someone who conserves.

In general, according to sources like Prager U, to be conservative in a nutshell is to be more reactionary and really- more focused on conserving money. Since of course, Liberals and their causes seem to eat up all this money. I agree with the fact that Liberals waste so much money on their imaginary causes and first world problems, to the point that even with all this non-binary stuff, it’s just getting absurd.

However, I have come to the conclusion that Conservatives..well, conserve too much. At least, economically. Too much to the point that many of their practices, the heightened focus on saving and working tooth and nail for the future are extreme to me.


I would say mainly since I am an immigrant, who grew up in a third world country, I see plenty of these Western Conservatives’ actions as extreme and paranoid. When conservatism and money is discussed, there is this always this attached assumption of spending nothing while saving everything- for the future they say, for a house, for good schooling and all that. To prevent government debt of course. I simply look at that closely, their financial standards just seem too high for someone who grew up somewhere where survival was at its basic.

They want to get houses debt-free or avoid debt altogether.

They are against school loans.

They seem to want private schools.

They want to live in the city.

They don’t even want basic public healthcare, everyone needs to pay up for every health service.

They prefer men and women both working so much just to keep putting money away for their children, then expect that those children do the same for their children.

It’s a never-ending cycle.

Where I grew up, none of these things were basically possible unless you were very rich- there is a huge gap between the poor and the rich in societies in the third world. I came to Australia and straight away I appreciated what basic rights I had, the basic support in case I needed it. When you are surrounded by a poverty-filled society when the bare necessities of survival are the main focus, it’s just hard to take these Conservatives seriously.

They act like the world will crumble if their kids weren’t in private school.

If they found themselves in some debt.

If one parent stops working.

It’s..fragile to me? There’s so much worse that could happen to your living conditions than that. We live in a first world country, where becoming homeless is so rare unless you’re a middle-aged white man. Nobody dies of hunger here in Australia, I can tell you and children are never living on the streets.

Since I’ve seen so much worse in my previous home country, it truly makes me feel grateful for what I have here, things that usually Conservatives have a disdain for.

So am I against saving? No.

Am I against being money-smart when buying a home or deciding on schooling for my children? No.

To put it simply, I believe you can save some, you can live some.

These notions put by Conservatives who are all assumed to have good amounts of money and to keep saving to be able to afford everything with high financial standards is idealistic- yet it is actually wasteful of one precious resource you can’t quantify.


Working tooth and nail is great, though for such prolonged periods and always living in the future? You forget the present. You forget to enjoy the little moments. Working for both men and women to save every dollar ever for all these standards? You sacrifice quality time for each other. For your home.

A quick note: If you actually really enjoy working and saving, then go ahead, all the power to you. Everyone has their choice, for me this is mine and if you get more pleasure in higher financial standards, then go for it. I’m talking about people who keep thinking they need to, when they don’t actually prefer it.

This is not a third world country that if you stop working and saving as hard, you would be on the streets and starving to death. There, you actually have to work every tooth and nail because if you don’t, you may not survive. Then again, many people find a way to survive there anyway, since they have the will- I don’t see that will often here in the West. One thing I do notice in Western countries is that people are so sensitive to financial problems, a little issue comes up and it’s as if the world is ending.

I can see as to how many people on ‘my side’ of the political sphere could definitely disagree with me here, though this view of mine is based on where I’ve lived. My experience knowing two utterly different worlds.

I guess this is an immigrant thing, I don’t expect people who haven’t lived or even observed a third-world level life closely to understand.

So what if you get a house with debt? This is Australia, when you work not only hard, but smart, you can keep up and manage. If not, there is help, financial advice is free and if you are in an emergency there’s services available.

So what if you can’t get into a private school? Teach your children resilience and academic responsibility for themselves.

So what if you have less disposable income without having two full pay checks? Learn how to be extra thrifty and live simply. Spend on what you really want, but every once in a while.

So what if you’re not offsetting the government debt as much? Maybe the government should deal with having less money so they are forced to stop spending on stupid things like encouraging Lefty lunacy in public schools and subsidising families with a huge amount of children and multiple partners trying to rort the system on purpose. Don’t just keep funding the government’s idiocy.

I’m not saying to save nothing, be entitled and have no responsibility while blaming everyone else, those are the Lefties and I still hate that.

Find the balance. Save to some extent but take advantage of quality time and take some risks. Learn from these risky situations and issues to build your resilience and resourcefulness. People in third world countries have to do that everyday with no choice, often through extreme inequality and hardship. Here in the first world? We can manage it. We can do it. We have support.
Not just conserving for a future that is not even here yet.
A wise, wise man from thousands of years ago named Marcus Aurelius once said:

‘For a man can lose neither the past nor the future; for how can one take from him that which is not his?’

We don’t own the past, it’s not here anymore, the future is not here yet so it’s not ours right now either. We can prepare for it to some extent, yet it shouldn’t blind us from the present, which we have now.

My main title says that I’m a traditional women’s rights activist. I am for traditional, domestic women who want a simple, traditional lifestyle with a balance of quality time and life’s necessities. I’ll always side with tradition over Western conservatism.

I came here for a better life that is beyond the basics of survival and I believe in getting to enjoy it.


10 thoughts on “That Stepford Gal At The Centre-Right?: Why I’m Hesitating To Call Myself Conservative

  1. The problem with political labels, I find, is that they’re often too black and white. It’s not even enough to say you’re socially liberal and financially conservative for example, as there is so much overlap and so many positions that are far more nuanced than can be described through one adjective.

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    1. Too true. I believe in the beginning of this blog I was very much concerned with being part of a label, especially since the figures who inspired me, like Milo- belonged to one. I won’t disown being a conservative completely. Socially conservative, yes.
      Though I have had one label I will continue to stand by since that’s always been my central value. Traditional Women’s Rights Supporter.


  2. My grandma is always on my case about saving more money. I get it, but if all you do is save and never spend, then what’s it good for? I’ve come to the conclusion that she’s a money hoarder. She has a lot of money, but acts like she doesn’t – always needs more, even though she doesn’t do anything with it.

    I’ve always thought of conservatism more like, holding on to the old ways of life. There are some traditions I like that can stay, but I very much enjoy living in the present day. I don’t want a time machine back to the 50s or the good ol days, or whenever. I enjoy being a woman in 2018. I enjoy the idea of progression.

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    1. That’s exactly right! Money hoarders was a term that came to me not long ago. I don’t want to be a hoarder for anything at all, really.

      I guess the conservatism you are talking about is social conservatism and I am definitely in agreement with you there. What I find strange is that economic conservatism is not at all like the old ways of life since they were actually more flexible about having women stay at home and more children. It should have been actually harder then due to having less support and more dangerous lives! Now people are acting like it’s much worse today and a traditional family is just impossible now- it was harder then and they managed it!
      I love most of the 50s in terms of family, haha.


  3. I’m with you there. I’m somewhere in the middle(ish) – I believe that it is good to be a homemaker, for men to work and provide for their families, while the wife is a wise manager of the household affairs, and mothers the children with kindness and wisdom. These things make for a happy family and stable society. I also believe in free healthcare, and a helping hand for those unable to work/searching for work. I believe that life is about people – families, friends, neighbours. That two parents working is not best for the children – why work hard for money, when you are missing the very things that life is about?
    I do send my children to private school though. It is worth the money (which we are very fortunate that the fees are not exclusive), because our children are growing up learning about God in school, and certainly not that it is OK to choose your gender, or any other ‘leftie’ doctrine. It is worth the money to send them to private school, to know that they won’t be taught, at an inappropriate age, about ‘safe homosexual intercourse’. Public school really does open them to certain agendas, and they really do want to get to your children as young as possible – ‘Safe Schools’ and all that.

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    1. Life is definitely about people, though to be honest I struggle with applying that fully myself because I’m not liking the current social society. Since they don’t care about people, it’s more about things and image.
      People don’t want to consider another way to live life, all busy in the rat race.
      Maybe it’s different where you are? Here in Australia the private schools are not /really/ religious, it’s more in name for the prestige (and to charge high fees, international students). In fact, a lot of these schools are even more liberal than public ones. Only private/religious in name. At least it’s better there.


      1. We have a unique private school here in SA, with about the lowest fees you could get for private, and a real focus on instilling love for God and Jesus every day. A lot of our community members are quite conservative, and that flows through to the spirit of the school – I think it is a good balance. We’re talking a higher-than-average proportion of families that don’t have TVs, mixing with families who do. Regardless of our approach to our family-raising, we are united in our desire to see our children growing up with good character and a growing faith that leads to discipleship.
        We are truly blessed to have such a school that supports us to do that.

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      2. You mean in South Australia? I’ve been in there and I did like the more domestic atmosphere! That is rare to hear for a private religious school system. I’m not Christian myself but I like the discipline and values being taught. It’s just I don’t see it in Victorian schools at all. You’re fortunate where you and your family are!


  4. Yep! It’s a nice place. We did Melbourne for 5 years but came home when we started our family – much more family friendly. As it turns out, that was the best decision we could have made. It’s all turned very lefty over there.
    Like I said, our Christian school is as unique as our (non-orthodox) understanding of the Bible. This makes us a strong and close-knit community focused on teaching the Bible (the way we understand it) to our children, and every day helping them grow (hopefully) into believers that are excellent citizens.


    1. Wow, now you’re really getting me interested in settling there.
      I’m glad that school has managed to keep its integrity, maybe I’ve just been worn down tired seeing all the fakeness of those sorts of schools around here.


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