While all the advice I will be giving here is fairly practical, with work and finance, approaching dating and vetting, there is also the important point of- you. Before all those other matters. You need to be ready.
Being a Domestic Woman can be emotionally tough, since, like I had said before nearly everybody will judge you for it. In some cases, it’s blatant open discrimination and insult (not the pretend-kind SJWs love to pander). Especially if you don’t have children or aren’t married yet, most people nowadays (and that’s a generous ‘most’) only accept women staying at home if there are children. As if we are contractual home nannies!
A Domestic Woman does not stay home to be a nanny, we are there for the household, the house as a whole, whether there are kids in there or not.
Of course, kids as a factor determines how much time we spend at home, yet it is NOT the only reason we should be at home. A Domestic Woman should be free to dedicate time to her home and not be judged for it.
You will be judged though, a lot. That is the truth. Here are some myths you will see all around in modern Western society about Domestic Women and their families. Don’t believe them, as they are merely illogical and hypocritical societal expectations driven by Cultural Marxism and materialism.
Myth #1: Domestic Women are lazy and don’t want to work
“Why do you just want to be at home and do nothing?”
The problem really lies with feminism, which values women’s tax contributions as market products, really. They don’t see value beyond money and they certainly don’t see the value in the time we bring to our households because it doesn’t involve dollar signs. While we used to be valued for our home contributions in the past, we are now just reduced to numbers. It’s degrading and restricting if you really think about it. Housework IS work, no matter how you put it and time is priceless. It takes time and physical labour. Do you think the surfaces dust themselves and proper, healthy meals cook themselves if we are just sitting around with snacks and watching TV?
You are actually ‘working full-time’. Part-time work and housework both combine to having a week’s work, it doesn’t matter what the hours are exactly (society loves to measure by hour, instead of by wage and time). If you can be creative and figure out a way to earn more for your hour, that just means you are so much smarter that you don’t have to be out for the whole 9-5 and can manage your housework in that space and earn just as well. Your aim is to support the family, not to be the breadwinner.
Myth #2: Domestic Women cannot afford to be at home
“What about getting a house and saving? You’ll have nothing.”
“Oh, so you want a rich husband to support you?”
Western society is very much centred around financial comfort and high financial standards- this is something I have noticed as an immigrant. I came from a place where people literally die of starvation on the street if they don’t work. This is not the case in Western society, there are even helpful resources and support available if you really are struggling, you will never find yourself starving to death on the street. If you know how to budget well, live small and not have high financial standards (the big house, two cars, pricey schools, big gadgets, eating out constantly etc) you can afford to live well on one or one and a half income in the West. I’ve been doing it with my single father and sibling for years.
A rich husband won’t do you any good if he is bad at managing his money or is not resourceful or even looks down on you. What your husband or partner earns doesn’t matter (as long as it’s stable and decent, not minimum wage), it’s how he uses it for his family or loved ones that matter. It’s how he budgets, how he looks at the future and creates opportunities for himself (to either save or excel or both) that matters.
Mindset over asset.
Myth #3: Domestic Women are stagnant and dependent just being at home
“Don’t you want to use your talents in a career?”
“Why are you just depending on your family? Grow up and move out.”
Now this is a funky one. I actually see it as the opposite, when you are choosing to live with a smaller income and are not used to a big, constant pay check, you become adaptable and more resourceful in working part-time and making opportunities for yourself. You look outside the lens of the rat race and at alternative ways to earn and you actually have the time to cultivate ideas that you can pursue into a work opportunity or small business idea. I have my work from home position right now merely because I suggested a new feature for a company I knew and they wanted to give it a go. It starts small, then it’s up to you to be innovative and grow it.
As for being dependent, I will address this more in my Being With Family post, though all in all, there isn’t much sense in throwing money down the drain for rent to look better for society, is there?
Isn’t it more independent and actually financially logical to be with family/your partner to lessen expenses so you can save for your future? Your family’s future?
You can learn to be more ‘independent’ and responsible by helping your family with their logistics- paying bills, arranging contracts and managing expenses. Get involved. You are learning from the experienced and getting experience yourself.
Becoming a Domestic Woman means strengthening yourself emotionally and mentally for what’s to come, you are living a different lifestyle and society will constantly remind you of that, they won’t accomodate you or even recognise you at times. You become resilient, though, like the women in the old days. It’s important to know the reality and know the even better reality that what you are doing, thinking about it logically and based on your family (not society), is actually..quite awesome.
What does a married housewife have to say about this, after having chosen to marry and have children in the traditionally domestic way? It is possible and it is worth it.
In the end, you’re setting up your life to have the time to enjoy it, for your loved ones to enjoy it and when you’re old you can look back on all the experiences and memories you made by choosing this path.
Ultimately, you win.