I never celebrate this day, not at all .
While the idea in itself is admirable, celebrating women and their contribution to history, the execution and message almost always is wrong.
I do believe women have made a great contribution to history – they are thinkers, mothers and carers who have worked hard to populate the world. They are the reason we are alive right now.
In fact, I believe in female power. Actual feminine power, not the fake femininity that’s a rip-off of masculinity that feminists like to aggressively show. I do wish I could celebrate that and in small ways, I try to within my personal life. I am thankful to my mother for when she was raising me when I was young, I am very thankful to my grandmother who helped me to be the woman I am today.
What I see when it comes to any mention of International Women’s Day is not the praise of great women and femininity. That’s not even the whole issue. The main problem is the fact that it’s used a vehicle to ‘empower’ women with all this ‘kumbaya, love yourself’ type of messaging.
It’s actually insulting. It’s the fact that a trillion posts on social media, articles and videos all work towards the same goal – trying to make women feel good about themselves. As if we are little children who need to be reassured by the grown-ups, it’s degrading.
I’ve had some challenges in my life, living a domestic lifestyle in a very modern, materialistic society – I appreciate the acceptance and support of my family and friends. I don’t need to be told by almost every piece of media I encounter that I’m doing great or I’m amazing or whatever (as if I am the sort of woman they actually mean to say it to).
I can see how I contribute to society through what I do and I’m not so weak-minded as to perpetuate and desire this type of coddling. Feminists just love to do this sort of thing. Patting the little toddler-followers on the head.
The more independently one feels and thinks, the less they need self-esteem stroking.
Even then, self-esteem technically isn’t that important, it’s a symptom of a society of therapism. Criminals have high self-esteem and a sense of worth through the roof. Feeding the ego and self-esteem is not really the way to be a better person, as is the common school of thought, especially for raising the young. It’s through resilience and having a strong mind. Not needing to be told everything you do or who you are is amazing, outstanding, strong or whatever else.
Every now and then people do need encouragement, there’s a difference between showing support and emotional coddling. Some random on the internet or worse, a company who wants push the feminist label for more sales don’t really know you or care about you when they say the things they do during International Women’s Day. They want your money or to stroke their own ego by doing emotional charity.
The real acceptance and encouragement that truly matters are the ones from people who actually know you and love you for who you are.
Maybe one day International Womens’s Day will actually be about feminine power – grace and intelligence, not aggressiveness. It would celebrate great women who have shown these values and have cared for the world without beating men down.
Instead of this drivel.