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Families Together Under Social Isolation: Why So Difficult?

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How is everyone holding up during such a stressful, unusual time?

With the outbreak and the impact it’s had all over the world, basically everyone has had some sort of consequence for it. I am very fortunate to be where I am, since Australia is one of the few countries that have managed to contain it well, due to timely social distancing and restrictions put in place.

Now I can go on and on about how I disagree with a lot of conservatives right now who are touting about their freedom and rights while risking themselves for a real disease that has harmed people.

Yet I won’t, I did want to put it out there though. I always speak my mind.

Many people are now complaining about being in quarantine and not being allowed out to have fun, see other people and just even essentials like working or study. It is not an easy thing and even for me, a real introvert who doesn’t even go out too much, it’s tough not being able to physically see my friends and extended family. The last time I saw my best friend, I couldn’t even hug her and that got to me in a way.

One thing that does annoy me though, is all the frustration many are expressing about being ‘cooped up’ with their family. It really does show to me how much people are so used to emotional ‘independence’ (more like I spend my own money a lot more and consume by myself) that being around their family for too long drives them crazy. Let me remind you, it was only a few decades ago that it is normal for whole families to live together, even with older children, until they married and settled on their own.
I’ve been at home with just my family and we never get close to that. If I need time to myself, I go and read, make something. Browse the net. That’s the same for everyone else. We spend time together in one room if we want to chat or for meals or if we want to do something together. Otherwise, it’s all the usual.

What is it about being so close to your family for an extended period of time that is so alien to people nowadays?

It could be because I come from a culture where it’s normal.

It’s not about my culture being right – it’s more about living as independently as possible, on your own, consuming more for a single person in terms of materials and finances, which are all bad for the environment. Maybe it’s a mean way of looking at it, yet this disease coming from exotic animals that belong in the wild moving to human beings says something.
We’re trying to reach for things that are not ours.
Consuming more than we need to.
Now it is punishing us, testing us with the materials we have and it’s forced many to downsize their lives and learn to live with less. Less money and resources at hand.

If you live simply (of course there are extenuating circumstances, I fully acknowledge), this current situation will not affect you as much.

I don’t spend or use up much so I’ve been financially okay. Some of my work roles have gone online, some have slowed down, though I’m not sinking deep. Not going out much means I have hardly spent anything unless it’s an essential.

Let’s take what we can from this crisis. Consume less and start learning to be more socially connected to the important people in your life. Stay safe everyone.

2 thoughts on “Families Together Under Social Isolation: Why So Difficult?

  1. You sound lot like me. I’m an introvert and I don’t go out much anyway, and my man is the same way.

    I understand that others are different and that being in the same house with the same people for all this time might get a little difficult at times, but that’s more to do with the fact that they aren’t used to it.

    I published a post related to this as well: Keeping Your Relationship Solid Through Quarantine. https://damesthatknow.com/2020/04/15/keeping-your-relationship-solid-through-quarantine/

    My man and I are often together and we keep to ourselves, but sometimes we we our time separately too. We might spend half the day together and then suddenly I’ll jump on my laptop and he’ll go do something else in a different room, and it’s just fine like that for a little while too.

    I see this as an opportunity to strengthen our relationships, just maybe in a different way.

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  2. Exactly! This is what I meant as well, there’s a certain something that shows what sort of couple or family you are if you can be comfortable in making your own space at home, even separate from each other! Unless you’re in a one-room studio or bedsit, I don’t see the reason to not figure out a way to become more comfortable together at home.

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